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using my words [Mar. 6th, 2014|10:07 pm]
Marissa Lingen
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I have been trying to find a way to say this that will not make the wrong people–which is really pretty much anyone–feel like I am guilt-tripping them.

I am pretty short of social/chatty email these days except for a very small number of the most usual suspects. While things may have turned a corner in terms of getting adjusted to this med, I am still not to the point where things are what one might call “good” or more to the point “highly functional and able to do things like drive and arrange for social outings and stuff.” So if you are a friend of mine and find that you have the time/energy for social/chatty email, that would be a good and useful thing to do. I would appreciate it.

This is the sort of request that is very hard to phrase for two reasons. The first is that I really, really do not want to nag or guilt-trip. Really. The second is that when you ask something like this and then do not get it, that is not always easy. And I have had the “I would like to hear from you more”/”yes I could do that” conversation with a couple of friends in the past and then not heard from them more, like, at all, and that was with individuals who knew that I was talking to them specifically and personally; a more general request is deliberately not meant to be a burden on anyone (anyone! really!) and yet leaves open the possibility that everyone will be unable to do an email blathering about what they read or what they are thinking about ancient Greek wind instruments or what line of paint color names they have thought of next, and will hope that someone else will take their turn at being helpful.

Still. Things have gotten enough better that I can say that this is a thing that might help make this next bit a little less rough. So I am saying.

Originally published at Novel Gazing Redux


From: sheff_dogs
2014-03-07 02:39 pm (UTC)
My favourite whatever (food, music, books ...) depends a lot on my mood so it's a variable feast, which I think is fun or at least more intesting to me than having a fixed list. Enjoy the re-reading, I still haven't got all og the wizard books, so many books, not enough time and money.
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[User Picture]From: mrissa
2014-03-07 03:30 pm (UTC)
I agree, having a fixed list would mean that any night I was not eating satay tofu (or spaghetti, or whatever it was that made #1) was automatically less of a good night than any night that I was. Whereas this way there are so many things that are nice at different times.

I feel that the Wizard books manage to keep general quality up and also vary somewhat, so there is no point at which I can say "if you hit this point, you've really gotten to all the good ones." I have appreciated that advice about some long series that do that, but this is not one. So on the one hand, yay series! and on the other hand, sigh for the time and money.
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From: thoughtdancer
2014-03-10 02:03 pm (UTC)
I agree as well, which is what I was getting at about it being an impossible question.

But it does get to be an interesting one. I realized when I read it that I've not read any of Spider Robinson's Callahans books in ages, and they make me laugh so very hard.

In particular, I was thinking about when the Lucky Duck was introduced. The car accident is completely impossible, hilariously written, and tonally perfect for the series.
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