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Marylyn [Nov. 21st, 2013|10:59 pm]
Marissa Lingen

I was worried, because I hadn’t heard from her at Christmas in the last few years, not even just a signed card. I made out my Christmas card list today, and when I wrote, “Marylyn,” I stopped and looked at it and hoped, and hoped, and wondered.

And tonight I find that my Marylyn died on Tuesday night.

She was my seventh grade English teacher, one of the two absolutely formative English teachers I had as a writer. (Ron Gabriel is gone from us also.) After that she was my friend, genuinely and honestly my friend, and we would get together and have coffee and pie at the Garden Cafe. She was one of the first adults who was my friend when I was a kid, not because of my parents but because of me, one of the first adults who taught me how good that can be, being friends across decades. The kids I have in my life, if I am good for them at all, owe a portion of that goodness to Marylyn Bremmer.

I feel like I should be able to put words on the flood of memories I have, on her merry laugh and her grave tones of serious advice, on the time she terrified a room full of smartass seventh graders into maybe taking a little better care with each other from then out. On the imitation she did of a Texan doing Mark Antony’s funeral oration. On the way she looked at the description I’d written of my friend Becca and said, “She sounds so very much like my Charlotte,” and we could talk about girl friends and lasting friends and what all that meant. I’ll pull myself together and write something coherent in the condolence letter to her family. But mostly I just keep hearing her chuckling in my head, saying, “Now remember, dear, when you publish your first novel, make sure the dedication page has it m-a-r-Y-l-y-n.”

Do not approve. Am not resigned.

Originally published at Novel Gazing Redux


[User Picture]From: sprrwhwk
2013-11-22 04:18 am (UTC)

Edited at 2013-11-23 04:47 am (UTC)
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[User Picture]From: alecaustin
2013-11-22 04:33 am (UTC)
I'm so sorry for your loss.
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[User Picture]From: miz_hatbox
2013-11-22 05:13 am (UTC)
So sorry for your loss. I don't approve either.
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[User Picture]From: davidgoldfarb
2013-11-22 05:18 am (UTC)
May you be comforted.
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[User Picture]From: skzbrust
2013-11-22 05:45 am (UTC)
I'm so very sorry. I have a few of those; whey they're gone, that place can't be filled.
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From: athenais
2013-11-22 05:45 am (UTC)
I am so very sorry for your loss. What good fortune to have had a teacher and friend like that.
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From: swan_tower
2013-11-22 06:01 am (UTC)
I never had a teacher who became a friend quite like that, but I had some who were very dear. I'm sorry she's gone.
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From: fmsv
2013-11-22 06:11 am (UTC)
I'm sorry for your loss. She sounds like a wonderful person.
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[User Picture]From: mkille
2013-11-22 06:23 am (UTC)
Prayers and sympathies...
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[User Picture]From: reveritas
2013-11-22 06:39 am (UTC)
Aw, Mris. I'm sorry. Hugs.
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From: arkessian
2013-11-22 09:23 am (UTC)
So sorry for your loss, but happy that you had the joy of knowing her.
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[User Picture]From: fgherman
2013-11-22 12:22 pm (UTC)
I am so sorry for the loss of your friend; may her memory be a blessing.
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[User Picture]From: mrissa
2013-11-22 01:22 pm (UTC)
Thank you, Jo.

And thank you for understanding.
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[User Picture]From: pameladean
2013-11-22 07:57 pm (UTC)
Aw, no, that's just not right. I am so sorry.

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From: vcmw
2013-11-22 01:08 pm (UTC)
I'm so sorry for your loss. She sounds like a wonderful person and a good friend.
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[User Picture]From: splash_the_cat
2013-11-22 01:33 pm (UTC)
I'm so sorry, M'ris. She sounds like a brilliant light in your and others lives.
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[User Picture]From: sartorias
2013-11-22 02:02 pm (UTC)
Oh, I am so sorry. These are the people who should be granted an extra hundred years.
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[User Picture]From: mechaieh
2013-11-22 05:14 pm (UTC)
Such sad news. Thinking of you.
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[User Picture]From: cakmpls
2013-11-22 06:56 pm (UTC)
I am sorry for your loss of your friend. You have paid her the best tribute possible, by paying it forward to the kids in your life.
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From: gwynnega
2013-11-22 08:26 pm (UTC)
I'm so sorry for your loss.
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[User Picture]From: elisem
2013-11-24 05:37 am (UTC)
Well, dang.

I'm sorry for your loss. Sounds like she were a good one indeed.
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[User Picture]From: roadnotes
2013-11-24 07:44 pm (UTC)
May her memory always be for a blessing.
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[User Picture]From: blue_hat_guru
2013-11-25 03:35 am (UTC)

"...the time she terrified a room full of smartass seventh graders into maybe taking a little better care with each other from then out."

That is an impressive feat.
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[User Picture]From: mrissa
2013-11-25 03:42 am (UTC)
It was done for all of us. But I was the proximate cause, and I have always appreciated it.
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