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"Rissy, 90% of the things you worry about never come to pass."--Grandpa [Apr. 28th, 2010|07:40 am]
Marissa Lingen
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One of the things I have worried about with this stupid vertigo is that someone I care about will interpret my behavior as not caring about them when it's really that I can't do something because of the vertigo, or else that the price of doing that thing would be so immensely high as to be not really worth it.

Now that this has actually happened, the person in question is being so nasty, so selfish, and generally such a drama llama that I'm thinking, "Oh! Is that how it is when people assume that my health problems are really somehow all about them? Well, sorry they feel that way, but not really much I can do about it."

So that's a milestone I guess. Or perhaps a millstone gone.

Grandpa did not mention what percentage of the things I worry about come to pass and then are completely tolerable when they do, but it seems like it might be a pretty relevant category in life, given how much I worry about random stuff.
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[User Picture]From: timprov
2010-04-28 12:44 pm (UTC)
And, thankfully, so far away.
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[User Picture]From: mrissa
2010-04-28 12:48 pm (UTC)
Is true: "nasty," "selfish," and "drama llama" combine well with "unable to show up on my doorstep on very short notice."

Would prefer not to go further in identifying the party in question than that, though.
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[User Picture]From: merriehaskell
2010-04-28 12:54 pm (UTC)
Probably about 90% of that 10%, I'm guessing.
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[User Picture]From: ckd
2010-04-28 02:28 pm (UTC)
As a fellow expert worrier, I think you're right.
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[User Picture]From: mechaieh
2010-04-28 02:00 pm (UTC)
Eep. Commiserations.
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[User Picture]From: dd_b
2010-04-28 02:28 pm (UTC)
Hey, if 10% of the things you worry about actually happen, that's doing pretty well.

Or else not adopting stringent enough protective measures. One or the other.
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From: tournevis
2010-04-28 02:29 pm (UTC)
Hurray for grandpas being right!
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[User Picture]From: mamapduck
2010-04-28 02:53 pm (UTC)
What? Like "If you *really* cared about me you'd get on a plane and fly to CA to take care of me while I'm feeling crummy. Selfish vertiginous M'ris!"

Seriously? Things are wrong with people.

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[User Picture]From: mrissa
2010-04-28 06:49 pm (UTC)
Yes, approximately like that.
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[User Picture]From: columbina
2010-04-28 03:24 pm (UTC)
Hoo boy. Sorry to hear it.
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[User Picture]From: dichroic
2010-04-28 03:29 pm (UTC)
A lot of things turn out to tolerable when they're happening just because you haveno choice (like, oh, say, vertigo). This one, at least, sounds *easy* to tolerate. (I hope so, anyway.)
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[User Picture]From: genevra
2010-04-28 04:04 pm (UTC)
Definitely the drama llama's loss, not yours!
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[User Picture]From: leahbobet
2010-04-28 04:44 pm (UTC)
I suppose it's very nice of them to lay that worry to rest. And to make sure you don't have to worry about them after all.
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[User Picture]From: mrissa
2010-04-28 06:49 pm (UTC)
So considerate!
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[User Picture]From: redbird
2010-04-28 04:44 pm (UTC)
Your grandfather was a smart man.

And yes, anyone over the age of about 8 who will interpret that as being about them is someone you can do without.
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[User Picture]From: pnkrokhockeymom
2010-04-28 05:01 pm (UTC)
For real? People will reveal themselves given time, won't they?
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[User Picture]From: moiread
2010-04-28 06:20 pm (UTC)
Oh, lawd. *facepalm*
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[User Picture]From: moiread
2010-04-28 07:05 pm (UTC)
Still, I am quite sorry you had to go through that. I mean, I believe it's generally better to know what's what and have the way this person really feels about these things out in the open between you, if only so you guys can then (hopefully) move on, but eesh. If there was some way you could get there while completely skipping the drama llama, nastiness, and friend-trying-to-hurt-you bits, I would wish it for you. 'Cuz you really haven't done anything wrong. And it's not like the vertigo is something you actively chose specifically so you could get on people's nerves, for chrissakes. It's bad enough you having to have vertigo without people giving you shit for it too. And I'm really glad you know that. There are some people who would fall into the trap.
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[User Picture]From: skzbrust
2010-04-28 06:39 pm (UTC)
Your health problems are not about that other person. Your health problems are about me, because everything is about me. But, fortunately, I'm on your side.
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[User Picture]From: mrissa
2010-04-28 06:49 pm (UTC)
Whew.
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From: thoughtdancer
2010-04-28 06:48 pm (UTC)
What they all said.

Drama llamas are not welcome--you're not Dr. Doolittle, talking to all the animals. ;-)
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[User Picture]From: mrissa
2010-04-28 06:50 pm (UTC)
I am very selective about which animals I talk to!

Anyone who has walked past me when I addressed a dog as, "Hello, gorgeous!" may think that I'm not, but they would be wrong.
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