Anyway. We persevere, and in the meantime I'm working on picking reading/viewing/listening material etc. to be...not relentlessly positive, definitely not that, but not particularly dark. I switched from watching old episodes of Murder One to watching old episodes of Bab5. I am susceptible to mope right now, so I'm working to counter that susceptibility as much as I can.
In some ways I'm frustrated by how slowly I'm working on fiction in all this, but in other ways I'm giving myself a chance to chew over stuff that needs chewing over, so that's definitely a good thing.
I'm also working on saying yes when people ask if they can do something specific and concrete to help. This is, we have ever hope, a short-term situation; accepting help to get us through it is a good idea. My reflex when someone offers is to say, "Oh, you don't have to do that." And indeed they don't, and neither did I when I was the one offering to them. So it's better if I say, "Well, you don't have to do that...but it does sound very nice of you, and we'd certainly appreciate it." I have all the instincts for no. Sometimes the right answer is still yes.