Marissa Lingen (mrissa) wrote,
Marissa Lingen
mrissa

Week of June 17-23; invitation poll

I got no communications regarding any submitted fiction this week. People tell you that you need to learn to deal with rejection, but silence is worse.

Someone on my friendslist recently ran into a bunch of different attitudes about party invitations, many of which surprised me. So I thought I'd ask around. I'm curious as to how many people have which preferences, so please don't avoid answering just because you don't live in the greater Twin Cities metro or would not expect to attend any events at my house or whatever. The sort of party in question is a biggish casual party, not, say, a dinner party where the host will need to know how many steaks/lobsters/bottles of wine/vegan cheese substitutes to buy and what time people will show up down to a ten-minute interval lest the souffle fall.

I also didn't include Evite stuff on this because I don't intend to use Evite, so it doesn't matter to me whether everybody loves or hates it. I don't mind getting Evites myself. I just don't issue them.

Poll #1008857 Invitations

Check as many of the following as apply to you

I strongly prefer mailed or hand-delivered invitations on paper.
0(0.0%)
I strongly prefer phone invitations.
0(0.0%)
I strongly prefer e-mail invitations.
0(0.0%)
I strongly prefer lj invitations.
0(0.0%)
If you mention a party to me in person, that will be enough for me to remember date/time/location and feel invited.
0(0.0%)
If you mention a party to me in person, I will want some reminder of when and where.
0(0.0%)
I like electronic invitations but don't care what format they take.
0(0.0%)
I hate electronic invitations but otherwise don't care about format.
0(0.0%)
If I am invited in a personal e-mail that is just to me, I have more of a feeling that the hosts want me at the party.
0(0.0%)
Mass e-mail is fine.
1(0.9%)
Small group e-mail is fine (me and people I might conceivably get there with, for example), but mass e-mail feels impersonal.
0(0.0%)
Lj filters or open posts feel impersonal to me.
0(0.0%)
The personal or impersonal nature of an invitation does not strongly determine whether I feel welcome.
0(0.0%)
I would like to tell you about some other preference in invitation style! And I will use the comments to do so.
0(0.0%)
I don't care how you call me, just don't call me too late to get there.
1(0.9%)

Also, as many as apply to you:

I like to see who else is invited.
0(0.0%)
I like to see who else will be there.
0(0.0%)
I like others to know whether I'll be there.
0(0.0%)
I don't like others to know whether I'll be there before they get there.
0(0.0%)
I feel more comfortable if I know that I'll know someone other than the host at a party.
2(1.9%)
I don't much care about the guest list as a general rule if the people in question have had good parties before.
0(0.0%)
I don't much care about the guest list as a general rule if the people in question are really close friends and important to me.
1(0.9%)
I don't much care about the guest list but I would like to be able to avoid one or two people if at all possible.
0(0.0%)
I don't like other people.
0(0.0%)
I like other people in groups of one or possibly two. Three if at least two of them are very very quiet.
1(0.9%)
I like to know whether the invitation is considered public knowledge or not (whether I can say to a common acquaintance, "I'm going to X's, do you want a ride?").
0(0.0%)
I like to know whether I am encouraged to bring other people or not (either unknown to the host or known but not very close friends).
0(0.0%)
I like parties with a fixed end time.
0(0.0%)
Parties generally end when they're going to end, and I don't need to know that in advance.
0(0.0%)
As long as there's good chocolate at a party, that's all I need to know.
0(0.0%)

And one more:

There's no sense in asking me to "RSVP," because I never remember.
0(0.0%)
I consider a reply to a large casual party invitation to be a statement of general intent rather than a firm commitment.
3(2.9%)
If I tell you I'll be there, I'll be there unless something really untoward happens.
13(12.5%)
Mostly I think to reply but sometimes not.
0(0.0%)
I will try to reply if I know it's a big deal to the host, even if it's no big deal to me when I'm hosting.
1(1.0%)
I hate it when people use "RSVP" as a verb. You don't have to tack "s'il vous plait" on the end of every conjugation of respond!
0(0.0%)
What's even worse is those jerks who pronounce it rizz-vip. I hate those people.
0(0.0%)
What's even worse is people who don't put accents where they belong in their lj posts. It's not s'il vous braid, dummy!
0(0.0%)
What's even worse is people who get uptight about verb forms and acronym pronunciations and accents. They're the real jerks here.
0(0.0%)
Nuh-uh.
0(0.0%)
Yuh-huh.
0(0.0%)
Plbtplbtplbt.
0(0.0%)
I'm telling! Mooooom!
0(0.0%)
Tags: mris manners, random questions, scorekeeping
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