(Why is it always a sandwich? Because lasagna is too messy and you're not sure you can get good naan for force-feeding bites of curry in that neighborhood? Because ice cream melts and you're not sure you'll be able to make it backstage in time? Why sandwiches?)
I am disturbed by people who cannot distinguish between thinness and anorexia.
I am also disturbed by people who assume that everyone really, truly, deep-down appreciates the dominant social notions of beauty and only endures involvement with mortals of different shape, style, and hue because of resignation to one's fate or some kind of noble high-mindedness. Sure, I prefer geeks for conversation and non-sexual interaction, but I am also allowed to enjoy the geekotypes we commonly see around us on an aesthetic basis! It's not charity, dammit! I do not put up with the scruffy beard in order to get at the book collection! I'm allowed to like both! ("Scruffy beard" is a stand-in for all sorts of traits and geekotypes, some of which are beardless. Still.)