Marissa Lingen (mrissa) wrote,
Marissa Lingen
mrissa

Depression and Real Goctors

This was going to go in a comment to one of my earlier posts, but it might get lost there, and I don't want it to get lost, because it may be important to more people than just the person I was talking to. I hope not, but it might.

If you tell a doctor that you are suicidally depressed and the doctor tells you that it's normal, just deal with it, the doctor is wrong. If you have any way of seeking another doctor and/or alternate treatment means, please do so. I know depression makes it more difficult to gather the motivation to seek treatment. It's one of the most insidious things about it. But please try. It's important.

If you tell a doctor that you are suicidally depressed and the doctor tells you it's because of your stupid girly hormones and you should stop whining and leave room in the waiting room for real sick people...well. WRONG doesn't even cover how wrong. If you have a doctor treating you like that, I hereby lift the ban on kicking the doctor in the stomach and shouting "No no no not real goctor." Kick as many times as you like in as many locations as you like. Should your depression leave you without the motivation to kick, a squad of willing -- nay, eager -- kickers will be appointed for you. And if you can get the motivation together, please lodge a complaint about the doctor. This treatment of a patient is both incompetent and insensitive.

Yes, various shifts in hormones can change people's brain chemistry and overall moods. This is utterly true. Yes, women are more prone to depressions at times of major hormone shift like menarche, post-partum, perimenopause, and menopause. Suicidal depression is still a medical condition that deserves attention, respect, and treatment. Even if every single woman got suicidal the year they hit menopause, it would still be worthy of treatment and attention.

Many men who live to late middle age and beyond to old age get prostate cancer.* The older a man lives, the more likely he is to have had prostate cancer somewhere along the way. We don't tell them that it's really normal and common and they should stop whining and just deal with it and quit taking up space for real sick people. We have a range of treatments to help them get better. This is like that. It doesn't count less just because you've got ovaries, and it doesn't count less because it's about feelings.

If you think I sound angry, you're right. I am. But I'm not angry at the depressed people in this circumstance. I'm angry at the doctors who took it upon themselves to belittle and ignore a dangerous medical condition, and to probably make it worse with their behavior. Good doctors don't do that, period.

*So guys, get screened.
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