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Take my advice. Or don’t, there are other options. [Aug. 11th, 2016|11:11 pm]
Marissa Lingen
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I am a sucker for advice columns.


Usually I describe this as: I want to see what people who think of themselves as normal think of as their problems. I want to see what people feel are insoluble problems, or at least problems for which they really need outside perspective. I know what I think is hard, and what I think is a lot of work but straightforward, and what I think is just plain all-around easy. But no one’s skills and strengths are universal, and seeing where people run into a wall and ask for help–and how they ask for that help–is fascinating to me.


This does not explain why I like this new project my friend Rose is doing, Story Hospital. Because Story Hospital is for writers with a particular kind of broken relationship: the relationship with one particular story or with their work in general. So: people who think of themselves as normal are pretty much right out the window, then, we are talking about the sort of people with entire imaginary casts in their heads. This project stemmed from a story-fixing panel at Readercon, and you can write in with whatever feels like it needs a fix, in whatever detail you want to give.


I guess this still fits the “other people’s problems” field, though. Gives you perspective on your own–of various kinds. And I think that Story Hospital will not get very many of my least favorite kind of advice column questions: “Other person is doing a thing in their own life that doesn’t affect me much, but it looks like a problem from here. How do I make them fix it?” (“My sister-in-law raises her children in the following non-abusive way. How can I make her stop?” “My adult child’s non-abusive romantic relationships or lack of same are disappointing to me. How can I make my adult child live my life instead of their own?” etc. This happens all the time in regular advice columns. I think it will not in Story Hospital.


I don’t know, maybe I’ll see my own problems solved in other people’s questions, but I think much more likely it will be a companionable feeling, like working side by side with people who are doing different things but in a congenial way. And one of the things I like about general advice columns that I think will be even more true here is that, unlike people who have modes of pressure to bring to bear on the person asking, an advice columnist really can’t. You can ask, they can answer, and if you don’t like their answer, reacting against it provides its own useful answer in some way. “That totally won’t work because what I really need is–” can be its own flavor of useful in creative projects. I’ll be interested to find out.




Originally published at Novel Gazing Redux

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[User Picture]From: rosefox
2016-08-12 05:39 am (UTC)
Thank you so much for the plug! "Your answer is non-helpful in these specific ways, which makes me realize this other thing, which is helpful" is definitely one of the things I'm hoping to inspire.
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[User Picture]From: timprov
2016-08-12 12:01 pm (UTC)
For those of us who don't like to leave Livejournal: storyhospital
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[User Picture]From: brooksmoses
2016-08-12 08:47 pm (UTC)
Thanks! Subscribed, and so now I don't need to remember to look at it. :)
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[User Picture]From: sartorias
2016-08-12 05:23 pm (UTC)
Good observation. I like what she's done (and posted) so far.
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[User Picture]From: thanate
2016-08-29 12:38 am (UTC)
“That totally won’t work because what I really need is–” can be its own flavor of useful in creative projects.

This is what I love about brainstorming; one of my go-tos for being stuck is to ask for ideas from all and sundry so that I can cross out all the things that aren't right. :)
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