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Missing Nana [Dec. 7th, 2012|08:08 am]
Marissa Lingen
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About six years ago, I wrote a post about Nana and the last of her home-canned peaches. And I talked about how lucky we were to have her still, and to have her be so much herself, after what she called her "little spell" and the doctors called a hemorrhaging brain aneurism. (For those of you who don't follow the link: this is my "aunt" Kathy's mother.)

Nana died last night. And all I can think of was the time when she was caring for Nanu when he was so sick before he died, and how he said, "Dorothy, you've been so good to me, you're going to heaven for sure." And quick as a flash, she said, "Oh, no, Frank! I want to be with you!" There are so many Nana quotes that have made their way into my family's daily vocabulary--the top two are "Didn't you do that last time we went out?" and "Eat your fruit and go," but I'm sure there will come moments in the next few months when something comes out of my mouth and I stop and think, "Oh, that was from Nana." She was just one of those people you can't help smiling about even when you're crying.

[User Picture]From: sartorias
2012-12-07 02:23 pm (UTC)
Oh, I am so sorry for your loss.
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[User Picture]From: bad_latin
2012-12-07 02:39 pm (UTC)
I'm so very sorry for your loss. She sounds delightful. I'm glad you have quotes and memories of her.
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[User Picture]From: arkessian
2012-12-07 03:00 pm (UTC)
I'm sorry that Nana is gone, but she'll never be lost, not with the memories you have to make you smile.
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[User Picture]From: cathshaffer
2012-12-07 03:25 pm (UTC)
I'm very sorry for your loss. Thank you for the wonderful remembrance. I love "I want to be with you."
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[User Picture]From: wshaffer
2012-12-07 03:35 pm (UTC)
I'm sorry for your loss. She sounds like a truly wonderful person.
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[User Picture]From: redbird
2012-12-07 03:40 pm (UTC)
I'm so sorry.
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[User Picture]From: chinders
2012-12-07 03:41 pm (UTC)
I'm so sorry. My thoughts are with you and your family.
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[User Picture]From: judith_dascoyne
2012-12-07 03:42 pm (UTC)
This is so sad.
I send soft and tender thoughts.
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[User Picture]From: reveritas
2012-12-07 04:02 pm (UTC)
Awwwww, Mris.

*hugs* and love.
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[User Picture]From: therck
2012-12-07 04:14 pm (UTC)
I'm very sorry for your loss.
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[User Picture]From: ckd
2012-12-07 04:16 pm (UTC)
Thank you for sharing her with us like this.
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[User Picture]From: halfmoon_mollie
2012-12-07 04:20 pm (UTC)
She sounds quite wonderful. I concur with the folks who say you will always have her with you. Still, you will miss her. I am sorry for your loss.
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[User Picture]From: moiread
2012-12-07 04:54 pm (UTC)
I think your good family members are the very best family members, and I am so, so sorry your Nana is gone.
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[User Picture]From: skzbrust
2012-12-07 04:56 pm (UTC)
She sounds like she was wonderful to know. I'm sorry she's gone, but glad you had her in your life for so long. I wish I'd known her.
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[User Picture]From: hawkwing_lb
2012-12-07 05:04 pm (UTC)
I'm so sorry.
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[User Picture]From: athenais
2012-12-07 05:21 pm (UTC)
I'm very sorry for your loss. You sure grow some tough, funny women in your family.
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[User Picture]From: juliansinger
2012-12-07 06:29 pm (UTC)
Oh, hell.

Glad you had the time with her that you did, all of you. And very sorry that the loss is with you now.
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[User Picture]From: nihilistic_kid
2012-12-07 07:02 pm (UTC)
Sorry to hear.
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[User Picture]From: dd_b
2012-12-07 07:02 pm (UTC)
Good stories are one of the very best legacies.
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[User Picture]From: txanne
2012-12-07 08:28 pm (UTC)
I'm so sorry.
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[User Picture]From: tiger_spot
2012-12-07 08:42 pm (UTC)

I'm sorry. And all those other things everybody's already said.
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[User Picture]From: mkille
2012-12-07 09:26 pm (UTC)
Prayers and condolences...
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[User Picture]From: pameladean
2012-12-07 09:37 pm (UTC)
Noooooo. I am so sorry.

I am glad of the stories.

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[User Picture]From: 1crowdedhour
2012-12-07 10:20 pm (UTC)
My deepest sympathies. She sounds grand.
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[User Picture]From: dandelion_diva
2012-12-07 10:29 pm (UTC)
I'm so sorry she's gone. I'm glad she's no longer in any sort of pain. Sending good thoughts.
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[User Picture]From: davidgoldfarb
2012-12-07 10:42 pm (UTC)
"Oh, no, Frank! I want to be with you!"
I laughed out loud. May her memory be a blessing.
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[User Picture]From: rosefox
2012-12-07 11:42 pm (UTC)
Her memory for a blessing.
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[User Picture]From: ashnistrike
2012-12-08 12:08 am (UTC)
I'm so sorry.
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[User Picture]From: lydy
2012-12-08 12:54 am (UTC)
I'm sorry. The stories are lovely.
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[User Picture]From: aedifica
2012-12-08 02:25 am (UTC)
I don't know what to say, but I'm thinking of you, and sad for your sadness but glad you knew her and have such memories of her. And I like that story, it reminds me of one my mom told me about my great-grandmother.
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[User Picture]From: vcmw
2012-12-08 02:50 am (UTC)
I'm so sorry. She sounds awesome.
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[User Picture]From: blue_hat_guru
2012-12-08 06:55 am (UTC)
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[User Picture]From: dormouse_in_tea
2012-12-08 07:15 am (UTC)
I'm sorry for your family's loss.
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[User Picture]From: swan_tower
2012-12-08 11:01 am (UTC)
Wonderful memories; I'm sorry to hear that you've lost her.
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[User Picture]From: carbonel
2012-12-09 04:34 am (UTC)
I'm so sorry. May her memory be a blessing -- and as papersky says, it already is.
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[User Picture]From: zalena
2012-12-11 01:51 pm (UTC)
So much of this, it seems, this year. I suspect it is not a season but a symptom of getting older that we have a growing acquaintance with death.

My condolences. There is nothing I can say that will make it better. But I will say this: from what you've written here, it seems you had a Nana worth missing. Her presence was discernible --- even to an outsider --- in you life and in your writing. I suspect it always will be.
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