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"Rissy, 90% of the things you worry about never come to pass."--Grandpa [Apr. 28th, 2010|07:40 am]
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One of the things I have worried about with this stupid vertigo is that someone I care about will interpret my behavior as not caring about them when it's really that I can't do something because of the vertigo, or else that the price of doing that thing would be so immensely high as to be not really worth it.

Now that this has actually happened, the person in question is being so nasty, so selfish, and generally such a drama llama that I'm thinking, "Oh! Is that how it is when people assume that my health problems are really somehow all about them? Well, sorry they feel that way, but not really much I can do about it."

So that's a milestone I guess. Or perhaps a millstone gone.

Grandpa did not mention what percentage of the things I worry about come to pass and then are completely tolerable when they do, but it seems like it might be a pretty relevant category in life, given how much I worry about random stuff.
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[User Picture]From: timprov
2010-04-28 12:44 pm (UTC)

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And, thankfully, so far away.
[User Picture]From: mrissa
2010-04-28 12:48 pm (UTC)

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Is true: "nasty," "selfish," and "drama llama" combine well with "unable to show up on my doorstep on very short notice."

Would prefer not to go further in identifying the party in question than that, though.
[User Picture]From: merriehaskell
2010-04-28 12:54 pm (UTC)

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Probably about 90% of that 10%, I'm guessing.
[User Picture]From: ckd
2010-04-28 02:28 pm (UTC)

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As a fellow expert worrier, I think you're right.
[User Picture]From: merriehaskell
2010-04-28 02:48 pm (UTC)

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Oh, I know whereof I worry.
[User Picture]From: panjianlien
2010-04-28 01:16 pm (UTC)

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Some people's children, I swear.
[User Picture]From: mechaieh
2010-04-28 02:00 pm (UTC)

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Eep. Commiserations.
[User Picture]From: stillnotbored
2010-04-28 02:05 pm (UTC)

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Said drama llama, who ever he or she may be, needs to get over them self. Being unable to do something due to the vertigo is not the same as not wanting to do something.

Seriously, people baffle me.
[User Picture]From: dd_b
2010-04-28 02:28 pm (UTC)

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Hey, if 10% of the things you worry about actually happen, that's doing pretty well.

Or else not adopting stringent enough protective measures. One or the other.
[User Picture]From: tournevis
2010-04-28 02:29 pm (UTC)

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Hurray for grandpas being right!
[User Picture]From: mamapduck
2010-04-28 02:53 pm (UTC)

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What? Like "If you *really* cared about me you'd get on a plane and fly to CA to take care of me while I'm feeling crummy. Selfish vertiginous M'ris!"

Seriously? Things are wrong with people.

[User Picture]From: mrissa
2010-04-28 06:49 pm (UTC)

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Yes, approximately like that.
[User Picture]From: mamapduck
2010-04-28 06:53 pm (UTC)

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Dude. Apparently I have an under-developed sense of entitlement. Although the next time you come to CA I am going to make a real effort to show up at your scheduled M'ris Sighting Events.
[User Picture]From: mrissa
2010-04-28 07:11 pm (UTC)

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I should specify that I almost certainly would have done the thing in question if I hadn't had vertigo. But still.

My next trip to CA is going to be to the dreaded SoCal, but I will get back north eventually. Really.
[User Picture]From: marydell
2010-04-28 09:05 pm (UTC)

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Ah, so developing vertigo was a ploy to get out of doing this particular thing. Clever, verrrry clever.
[User Picture]From: columbina
2010-04-28 03:24 pm (UTC)

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Hoo boy. Sorry to hear it.
[User Picture]From: dichroic
2010-04-28 03:29 pm (UTC)

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A lot of things turn out to tolerable when they're happening just because you haveno choice (like, oh, say, vertigo). This one, at least, sounds *easy* to tolerate. (I hope so, anyway.)
[User Picture]From: genevra
2010-04-28 04:04 pm (UTC)

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Definitely the drama llama's loss, not yours!
[User Picture]From: leahbobet
2010-04-28 04:44 pm (UTC)

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I suppose it's very nice of them to lay that worry to rest. And to make sure you don't have to worry about them after all.
[User Picture]From: mrissa
2010-04-28 06:49 pm (UTC)

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So considerate!
[User Picture]From: redbird
2010-04-28 04:44 pm (UTC)

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Your grandfather was a smart man.

And yes, anyone over the age of about 8 who will interpret that as being about them is someone you can do without.
[User Picture]From: pnkrokhockeymom
2010-04-28 05:01 pm (UTC)

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For real? People will reveal themselves given time, won't they?
[User Picture]From: moiread
2010-04-28 06:20 pm (UTC)

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Oh, lawd. *facepalm*
[User Picture]From: moiread
2010-04-28 07:05 pm (UTC)

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Still, I am quite sorry you had to go through that. I mean, I believe it's generally better to know what's what and have the way this person really feels about these things out in the open between you, if only so you guys can then (hopefully) move on, but eesh. If there was some way you could get there while completely skipping the drama llama, nastiness, and friend-trying-to-hurt-you bits, I would wish it for you. 'Cuz you really haven't done anything wrong. And it's not like the vertigo is something you actively chose specifically so you could get on people's nerves, for chrissakes. It's bad enough you having to have vertigo without people giving you shit for it too. And I'm really glad you know that. There are some people who would fall into the trap.
[User Picture]From: skzbrust
2010-04-28 06:39 pm (UTC)

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Your health problems are not about that other person. Your health problems are about me, because everything is about me. But, fortunately, I'm on your side.
[User Picture]From: mrissa
2010-04-28 06:49 pm (UTC)

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Whew.
[User Picture]From: mamapduck
2010-04-28 06:58 pm (UTC)

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This cracked me up because I once (lo, many years ago) had a very drunken conversation with a boyfriend whose theme that evening was "everything eventually ties back to Taltos." So for that moment, I guess he was right with you on everything being about you. :) I can't quite remember how he did it, but I do recall world peace and gummy bears both being "All about Taltos."

From: thoughtdancer
2010-04-28 06:48 pm (UTC)

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What they all said.

Drama llamas are not welcome--you're not Dr. Doolittle, talking to all the animals. ;-)
[User Picture]From: mrissa
2010-04-28 06:50 pm (UTC)

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I am very selective about which animals I talk to!

Anyone who has walked past me when I addressed a dog as, "Hello, gorgeous!" may think that I'm not, but they would be wrong.
[User Picture]From: dlandon
2010-04-28 08:50 pm (UTC)

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Drama llama was not a term I'd heard before today. Thanks for making me laugh at work :)

and, since I have a good idea who the drama llama is - don't waste a single second on worrying about her.

- D
[User Picture]From: mrissa
2010-04-28 09:21 pm (UTC)

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One of the things I like about "drama llama" is that it is not gendered. It doesn't act like being drama prone is all a "girl thing." Some of the biggest drama llamas I've known have been male!
[User Picture]From: papersky
2010-04-29 12:22 pm (UTC)

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Rhymes too. And llamas, real llamas, are like that.

We were once waiting outside a field of llamas for the people with us who had paid to get in and I got to see a classic moment of a llama spitting at a little boy. All about them, all the attention, all the time.
[User Picture]From: dancing_crow
2010-04-29 12:40 am (UTC)

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Did he mean that as a generality or for you in particular? Because it sounds about right for the stuff I worry about too, and now I am wondering if it is something like Sturgeon's Law, or the programming thing where 90% of the project takes 90% of the time and the remaining 10% takes another 90% of the time....

And I add to the chorus of sorrow about other people's issues.
[User Picture]From: mrissa
2010-04-29 02:17 am (UTC)

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He did seem to mean 90% of the things one worries about, or else he was not taking separate data sets for myself and my mother.
[User Picture]From: fidelioscabinet
2010-04-29 12:42 am (UTC)

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Well. Some people!
[User Picture]From: mkille
2010-04-29 12:50 am (UTC)

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I am sorry for nasty selfish drama llamas. But then I picture him or her spitting, like disgruntled llamas do, and I giggle. Just a little.
[User Picture]From: mrissa
2010-04-29 02:18 am (UTC)

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See? The drama llama helps. It pulls some of the drama out of the situation, even.
[User Picture]From: writingortyping
2010-04-30 12:41 pm (UTC)

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Brings a whole new meaning to "llama, llama, duck."
[User Picture]From: mrissa
2010-04-30 03:09 pm (UTC)

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I do not know "llama, llama, duck." I know "moose llama moose llama turtle turtle," but that seems to be a bit different.
[User Picture]From: writingortyping
2010-04-30 03:39 pm (UTC)

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http://burtonearny.deviantart.com/art/The-Llama-Song-9311361

Annoying, sometimes funny, irritatingly catchy.

You have been warned.
[User Picture]From: columbina
2010-05-03 02:10 pm (UTC)

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Oh, I wish you hadn't done that. I had just about gotten it out of my head from the LAST time someone linked this.
[User Picture]From: mycroftw
2010-05-10 03:46 pm (UTC)

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Sorry, all I know is "duck duck goose", "M R DUCKS", and "quack quack, gobble gobble" ("Did you, by any chance, mean 'duck, turkey'?"). No l*amas, whether priest, beast or silk pajama.
[User Picture]From: reveritas
2010-04-29 02:06 am (UTC)

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Crap noodle mother of beans. That is not acceptable.